Zach Kong in To be frank with you, the secret of sadness is no secret at all. It is just that many of us fail to see it even though it is always right in front of us.
I believe both you and I know that sadness is just part and parcel of life. This is the truth and will always be the truth.
Regardless of who you are or how much you earn, you are bound to experience sadness as you travel through this journey I call Life.
In fact, when you start to look closely into the secret of sadness, it actually states that happiness is the root cause of all sadness.
You can never experience sorrow without first experiencing happiness or any displeasure without contentment.
Happiness and sadness are just 2 sides of the same coin. They come together and they will be together. One follows the other.
All sadness and sorrows arise from your misconception of happiness. To be more accurate, your wrong perception of your “lost” happiness.
Now think about it carefully. Can happiness really be lost? Is it really true that our “lost” happiness can never be acquired back and experienced again?
The truth is, those happy moments and experiences are NOT lost and never are.
What you have lost is in fact the source of it. Not the happiness itself.
For example you got fired from a job you really, really like. How do you feel? Sad!
So what are you really sad about? It is because of the job itself or it is because of other issues like having to leave your kind and helpful colleagues? Your fear of not able to find the exact same job which you have great passion for?
When you actually start looking into it, you will find that what you really missed is not the source of the happiness. Instead, you are feeling sad because you miss the wonderful feeling or positive emotion you obtain from them.
Therefore by constantly focusing your attention on the source of your happiness and your lost of it, you will not be going anywhere but continuously feeling sad for your perceived loses.
It may be true that you have lost the source of it; however you have never lost that happiness. You just have to look for it at a different place.
~~ Helen Keller ~~
Now I am not saying that you shouldn’t feel sad over someone’s death or over the lost of something you missed dearly.
What I am trying to say is that sadness should not be used as an excuse for you to indulge in self-pity and self sympathy.
What I learn from the secret of sadness is that sadness in fact is another way you express your gratitude and appreciation for the thing, person or event which bring you your happiness.
You feel sad because you miss the good old times, joy and laughter you had, acknowledging the fact that you will not be receiving your happiness anytime from them soon. For that, you thank them for the happiness and joy they have brought you to.
In addition, you also recognize the fact that your happiness is not lost. You just have to keep your head high and continue to move forward and keep looking.
Therefore rather than constantly looking at the closed door and hoping that it will be once opened up for you again, why not focus your attention on the present and start looking for new and more interesting opportunities that are sure to come your way?
Remember the secret of sadness? Happiness is never lost. You just have to keep looking in front you not and not be blinded by your past perceived “lost”.
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