Even the definition of “responsibility” doesn’t sound encouraging:

re·spon·si·bil·i·ty (rÄ­-spŏn’sÉ™-bÄ­l’Ä­-tÄ“) pronunciation
n., pl. -ties.

• Something for which one is responsible; a duty, obligation, or burden.

As a matter of fact, we really have many responsibilities in life. Responsibility of a filial child, encouraging friend, loving parents, teachable student etc. Just to name a few.

As time goes by, we gradually learn that the greater our responsibility, the lesser our freedom. If you ever watched Spiderman, Peter Parker was told that greater power comes with greater responsibility. And after numerous nights of swinging around the city fighting the baddies, he realized that he seemed to have lost a lot of things he once treasured like good academic grades, his beloved girlfriend, Mary, etc. He even once thought of abandoning his role of Spiderman.

Of course, we are not hear to discuss about Spiderman. Just that if you think about it, aren’t you able to find some similarities between you and Spiderman? Super powers aside, like Spiderman, you’re being burdened by numerous responsibilities, some causing you your freedom.

As we gradually realized the things we’ve been missing out, we start to give up some of our responsibilities even though some of them should be held on dearly. Especially the responsibility of controlling your life.

How responsible are you to your own life? Or are others responsible for running your life? I may sound a bit rude here, but most of the people are really putting such important responsibilities into the hands of others. Letting others control their life, telling them what to feel, when you should feel them, what dreams you can have etc. Isn’t that pathetic?

Those people are in fact living the life script passed down to them not realizing that they, and only they alone, own their life. No one else!

Are others responsible for your happiness or lack of it? Are they to be blamed for you not having enough time to do what you want? Or it is because of them that something bad happened to you? Do you always see yourself as a victim of circumstances and other people’s actions?

Think about it for a while and ponder over it well. How many times have you blame others or external circumstances for something undesirable that happened to you? Most of us have and I do that often in the past. Even so, there is nothing to be ashamed of. What’s to be really ashamed of is you not willingly to take back the control of your life.

It’s your life and it should be your own script that you should follow and not some scripts passed down to you, even by some “credible” source. I’m sure some of them means well. However that doesn’t mean you need to follow theirs and throw away yours. That’s not being fair to you and also the people around you.

“My will shall shape the future. Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man’s doing but my own. I am the force; I can clear any obstacle before me or I can be lost in the maze. My choice; my responsibility; win or lose, only I hold the key to my destiny.”
~~ Elaine Maxwell ~~

Until you start taking responsibilities for everything that happened to you, you’ll continuously blame others or find excuses for whatever things you’re lacking in your life. Be it happiness, time, friendship or honesty.

Especially success… …

No one is responsible for your success but you. Rest assure that others won’t make you successful. Not because they don’t want to, they don’t know how. Even if they know how, it’ll be their own definition of success, not yours. What is Success to you? This is a question you must eventually ask yourself.

Taking responsibility for whatever comes your way is your baby, yet important step towards your route to success. You are responsible the walking and no one else.

When you truly start taking responsibility for your life, you find that you no longer need to do things to please others or follow the crowd. You’ll gradually abandoned the need to seek acknowledgment and recognition from others. Most importantly, you’re well on your way to achieving your own success, one you truly desire.

“Self-trust is the first secret of success.”
~~ Ralph Waldo Emerson ~~

Now how liberating can that be? Freedom is me is simply to be able to do what you want and desire.

When can you really says from your heart that you’re free? Or you have truly attain the freedom you desire? That is one question only you can answer.

Answer to your inner freedom call and become a freedom fighter. You’re worth what you can be.

“Circumstance, hell, I make them.”
~~ Napoleon Hill,Think and Grow Rich ~~