Yet in another post to help you identify your purpose in life, I asked of you to think of a worthy purpose which will enable you to contribute, give and share whatever you can with your community. To others, they see it as a way of “putting yourself in front of others”.

Now, time for some clarification. To live your own script, to live the life you desire, get the things you want and obtain the things you need is NOT being selfish.

“Believe me, I know what’s best for you. I just want to protect you. I won’t want to bring any harm to you, will I?” Does that sound familiar? Who actually said that to you before? What happened in the end? Are you happy? Are you satisfied with their so-called “explanation”?

Probably they really mean what they say. However, one thing for sure, we’re not doing things that we like and are not pursuing our own happiness.

To be responsible for your life is to break free of the need to constantly having to seek approval, recognition and acknowledgments in everything you do. That is in fact a sign of low self esteem.

By not being the person you’re destined to be, you are obviously not making the correct amount of contributions to the community or the society.

It is pretty “selfish” of you to stay in your comfort zone unwillingly to breakout of it. You’re being “selfish” for not willing to recognize your own uniqueness and the individualism in you. You’re being “selfish” to your children and the people around you for not setting up the correct example for them to follow.

So who is being “selfish” here? Someone who is unwillingly to uptake the responsibility given to him or her? Or someone who is willingly to recognize the fact that by being responsible for his or her life, s/he can start making huge contribution to the society?

I think the answer is obvious, isn’t it? So now the question is who do you want to be? Whose responsibility are you going to uptake? Your own or the responsibilities of others? Who happiness are you going to pursue?

As for the post to help you identify your purpose in life, I suggested that in your purpose statement, you can write down how you can contribute to the society.

Just one thing to clarify, stating the types of contributions you’ll make doesn’t necessary mean that you’ll need to put others in front of yourself.

It just symbolizes that you’re willingly to make that sort of contribution in circumstances that allow you to do so.

Also, those making those contributions should be something you enjoys and get you excited. Therefore even if it means having to spend some of your valuable time, energy and effort to make that sort of contributions, I believe you won’t find it a chore to do so, not say sacrificing anything.

I know such issues can be very debatable at times. I just hope to bring to you that it is really not “selfish” to live your life you desire. Personally, I encourage you to starting taking your first step out to live a life you can truly call your own. A life you know you’ll enjoy and be excited about.