Well, it sure doesn’t sound nice having some one accused you of having any sorts of disorder, however blame disorder is probably what most of us are suffering from.

You don’t need to take my words for it. Just look into your life and you’ll see what I mean by that.

How often do you play the blame game? How long have you been playing the useless, yet addictive game?

Does the below statements sound familiar?

1. It’s all their fault.
2. If it has not been for them, this thing won’t happen.
3. Why must this thing happen to me now?
4. Why can’t she be more understanding?
4. He don’t care about me at all. He don’t love me anymore.
5. As a friend how can he do that to me?
6. Why must the traffic jam happen now?

Feeling guilty of playing the blame game? Don’t worry for you’re not alone.

Everyone plays the blame game and suffers from the blame disorder. It’s just that a matter of how frequent and how long is the disorder going to bother you.

I know almost every personal development guru out that suggest you to be 100% responsible for your own actions, the people around and the circumstances.

Well, you may say easier said then done. For that, I agree with you. In fact, till now, I still catches myself playing the blame game.

To what I know,being fully responsible for one’s life is not something you can master in matter of days or weeks. (Or do you have any ideas on how to do that?)

Whenever you start the blame game, you’re relinquishing some of the control you’ve in your life to the other person or circumstances that “cause” you to become what you’re now.

Needless to say, the longer and more frequent you choose to play the game, you less control you’ve in your life and the worser your blame disorder becomes.

Gradually, you’ll sense that other people and external circumstances play a big part in your determining your happiness and success, which is obviously NOT true.

“There are many scapegoats for our sins, but the most popular one is Providence.”

Do you really expect yourself to succeed with this attitude towards life? The unwillingness to take up responsibility for whatever that happens to you?

The truth is, you can never get what you want if you’re too engrossed in playing the blame game.

So now the question is, why are people still indulging themselves in such games? Unwillingly to cure themselves of their blame disorder?

Well, the reason is simple. It is because they just like being the victim. By feeling victimized by other people’s actions and their external circumstances, they no longer need to find any excuses for their failures and inactions.

“Thou shalt not be a victim. Thou shalt not be a perpetrator. Above all, thou shalt not be a bystander.”

After all others are always to blame for all the failures that happen to them. External circumstances are conveniently their “reasons” for their inactions, procrastination and laziness.

Also, it is easier to convince oneself and others for the lack of success that s/he experiences. For them, it is always because of others’ actions, inaction or lack of support that cause them their failures. They’re never to be hold responsibility for their success and failures.

The truth is, no one is to blame at all for your failures and successes in life. No one but you.

Now, please don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that you should place all the blames on yourself and start beating yourself up for all the wrong things that happened.

What I am suggesting is that you should start increasing your awareness that all everything and everyone that appears in your life is the results of your thoughts, actions or inactions.

You and you alone are responsible for creating and attracting everything in your life. No one is to blame for that.

The life you’re living now is the result of the choices you had make in the past. Therefore in order to live a better, more fulfilling and successful life, you have to start learning to make better choices.

Successes come from making the correct choices and making correct choices come from one’s experiences and one’s experiences comes from making the wrong decisions.

“The power of choosing good and evil is within the reach of all.”

Thus, don’t get discouraged by all the un-resourceful choices you’ve in the past. You’re a product of your past but surely not a prisoner of it.

Learn from those experiences for from them you can get valuable lessons on making better choices to shape your future.

Throw away those limiting beliefs that others are to be held responsible for your successes and failures. They do play a part of course, however it is always up to you to determine your outcome.

I mentioned this formula before during our discussion about how responsible you should get in your life, if you don’t like the outcome, you just have to change your reaction.

“Re-action” means to take action again and again. Therefore you just have to keep taking actions until you reach a favorable outcome.

To be able to reach a outcome you desire, perseverance is important. However, keeping one’s sanity is also essential.

Just a side track, do you know what is insanity?

Insanity is to do the same thing over and over again and expecting a different results.

If such actions can’t get what you want, then change your actions and try again. Don’t keep doing the same things and expect a different outcome. Both you and I know that’s impossible.

So what have you decided to do differently this time to move yourself closer to your success?

“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”