Have you ever wondered why there are so many courses out there teaching anger management techniques while there are so few courses in the market to teach people how to manage happiness?

First let me ask you a question, do you view anger as a destructive emotion, hoping to get rid of it or something desirable and good-to-have?

Well, the answer is pretty obvious, isn’t it? Like many others, you probably also see anger a negative emotion.

However is anger really that “bad”?

Personally I feel that all emotions exist for a reason. Regardless whether they are destructive or constructive, they all exist to serve us, benefit us.

And the truth is whether the emotions are desirable or undesirable really depends on your perceptions.

All emotions are necessities of life. They provide valuable feedbacks which you and I can make use of to change our lives for the better.

I have seen a lot of people trying to suppress their anger, believing it as a negative emotion, only to experience more of it in stronger intensity.

Whatever you suppress, you attract.

Therefore, rather than viewing anger as a monster, why not start treating it as a friend?

It is not what type of emotion we experience that is the problem. Rather it is how you choose to express it.

The main reason why people often label anger as a “negative” emotion is because of the unproductive ways the majority of us tend to express that emotion.

Shouting, pushing or resorting to violence are just some examples of unproductive and reactive expression of anger.

However several successful people have time and time proven to the world that with proper knowledge and practice, we can reap positive results even when we are angry.

Now, probably you’re thinking, “Well, they have high tolerance level to start with. That’s why they can be so calm in dealing with those difficult people and circumstances!”

To a certain extent you may be right. However, let’s be clear on one thing. Having high tolerance level is not a born trait. It can be nurtured.

The ability to attain high tolerance level is a skill that needs to be acquired and developed with patience, persistence and most importantly, with heightened awareness.

Like many others, you too can build up your tolerance level and be more resilient to others’ criticisms and unwelcomed behaviors.

Anger is human and every one of us experience anger every now and then. There is really nothing wrong in experiencing them and expressing them. You just have to make conscious effort to express it in a more productive and resourceful way.

Those who anger you conquer you.